Tuesday, April 13, 2010

What satisfaction do people get from a 'one-night stand'?

I do not understand, surely it leaves with a feeling of emptiness and self-pity?


I do not know, can some people tell me, as I find it hard to believe it is 'fulfilling' in the slightest.

What satisfaction do people get from a 'one-night stand'?
Sexual satisfaction is the answer.
Reply:For starters one must be in the right frame of mind. If you are there, it is about being satisfied and not having to worry about a relationship.
Reply:It beats being alone... the feeling somone wants you and you aint that ugly.





Practice to help you when you find someone specail.





hopefully a new friend





beats tossing to porn or a vibrator.





etc
Reply:I typically get my night paid for, good sex (Always wear condoms and practise safe sex)


and don't have to commit
Reply:they get the thrill and the conquest of actually scoring without the bits and pieces attached
Reply:One night stands are basically a test to see if you move to first base - all the more reason to hold back in anything other than conversation - hence you dont end up with the feeling of self destruction. They are good - but only for as I said on my first line -
Reply:i had several one night stands a few years back - this was because i wasnt in a good relationship, he wasnt what i wanted and he was away 9 months of a year, so it was attention for me, wanting somebody! just anybody!


that is why i did it!


i feel no desire to do it since i met my partner! x
Reply:Beats me, I'm waiting for marriage.





It seems to me that it's the instantaneous gratification and satisfaction (overly horny), and for guys, bragging rights. If a guy is out with his buddies at a bar, he meets a girl, and takes her home, he gets to brag to his buddies the next day about how he "scored." She gets to go home, take a shower, and wonder why she did what she did. If she tells her friends, she's labled as a s!ut..
Reply:It depends on how much you want it and if its any good.


Are you seriously telling me you have never had one? I think everyone is different it depends what kind of person you are. One night stands are what they are and nothing more. You have to have that same mentally otherwise you will end up feeling empty and used. Try it.
Reply:As they say on the sports news...it's "the thrill of victory!"





...as opposed to the agony of defeat.
Reply:Well surely it would all depend on how good the sex was
Reply:It works both ways their is no deep relationship to be bothered about.


Once the night becomes day a quick peck and a good by and thats as far as it goes.....
Reply:Not much! just a feeling of emptiness and the reason I don't chose to have it after the realisation of the fact, I prefer to wait til I know it is going somewhere other than a quick fix to lust.
Reply:There is always satisfaction when one sex meets another for the first time, probably most people have experienced this, its a natural thing to meet other sexes.
Reply:Hopefully HOT Sex? Sometimes you just have to accept the fact that it is a physical thing. Although most of us have been taught that love should be involved when we are going to become physically intimate with someone, some people don't care and just look for the immediate gratification.
Reply:not if both parties are consenting, and they both just are purely up for a night of no holds barred fun and neither are looking for anything more. Its only natural after all!
Reply:U get an urge witch needs to be forfilled..
Reply:The satisfaction of wiping it on their curtain when you have finished then going back to the pub to your mates!
Reply:....IMMENSE satisfaction
Reply:I've never had one but probably a good orgasim!!
Reply:I wish there were more people like you around!


You're totally right, it's not fulfilling at all, but lust is a powerful motivator and can cause people to do abnormal things.
Reply:well theres no strings....it's done and dusted...no complictions, no commitment....people who have one night stands do it coz they can and want to.....theres nothing wrong with it....and yes, some people are fullfilled by it...personally i wouldnt but hey....each to their own
Reply:One night stands are really sad. There is no point to it, not to mention dangerous.
Reply:It's the thrill of the chase. The flirting, the run up, the act itself. It's the adrenaline, the feeling of knowing you've 'still got it'. It makes you feel good about yourself, knowing that someone fancies you.





But, i must admit, the day after, you feel cheated, ashamed, embarrassed. It's not nice at all, the 'thrill' has gone, and you're left thinking 'why was i so stupid?' you realise the sexy things you did last night, were actually really idiotic and silly. You get 'The Fear', you know, that feeling of 'do i remember everything? what don't i remember? what might i have done?'





Not nice, don't do it. Get yourself in a loving trusting relationship before you open up to someone that much
Reply:i will be honest aand say i have had a few in my time, and the sex was great because you had no strings and it was kind of illicit which makes it more exciting and you have less inhibitions because you know it is a one off, i always practised safe sex and in no way felt cheap or nasty, there is no right or wrong and its up to the individual but if both after no commitment fun then go for it.... we all have needs, happily married now though
Reply:An ego boost - if you're not getting any it can make you feel like you're still desirable. But soon after it makes you feel worse cause that's all the other person wanted you for!!!
Reply:Wel i have never been able to understand it either coz i feel jusst the same way, but i guess that is why we are all different for some people sex is different we can't all be the same.it may be plesurable for someone else.it is just like some people are afraid of committement, so i think it's just no you the trill and feeling just does not work for you and it does for others.
Reply:I think alot of 1 night stands are just low self esteem issues in the person and pulling and having sex makes them feel better (until the next morning that is) though it is different for men as they just want the sex really that is the satisfation they get.


personally i dont like 1 night stands if i was EVER to have one it would still have to be with somebody i knew well and trusted as a friend but just decided to have 1 night of no strings sex or something but that would be the only way.
Reply:I don't know, i think its cheap and degrading. it may boost the self esteem of some people who think they are mingers.
Reply:one night stands can be fun as often you can feel more confident with that person as you know you wont see them again....who cares if they see your wobbly bits!!!as long as your careful and dont leave with an un wanted gift it can be passionate, sexy and downright dirty!!xx
Reply:You have been brainwashed into thinking that sex only comes with marriage, religion and it is not right for it's own sake. Hey, wakey wakey, it is fun and can be undertaken without affecting other people. We have been conditioned to believe that it is not right to enjoy sexual relationships without commitment. If kids or a wife is intended, then yes, it is better for them to have a stable home, however, "open relationships" can still work. Your own feelings on the subject are important to you and I would not try to change them. My opinions are suitable for me. I will not judge you or be judged by others. Live and let live. Regards


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