Thursday, April 15, 2010

What is the best way of self satisfaction?

how one can be self contended and stop comparisons from the world and people around?

What is the best way of self satisfaction?
I used to work with homeless teens and young adults and my program emphasized self-esteem. I had a really simple strategy based on only one principle: your self esteem can never drop below the greatest thing you've ever done for another human being.





This turned out to be extremely effective with them because they were surrounded by people who lived in constant desperation, and any act of kindness could be regarded as life-saving. So all I had to do is remind them from time to time of the things they did for one another, and all I had to do was find a single example any time a problem came up, and if the example was a real event, who can argue?





Here's a story for an example of what I'm talking about.





I worked with street kids for about 2 years. During that time, most of the time, I delivered pizza for a living because the night hours were more compatible with the night hours kept by the kids. (I also got half-off on pizzas.)





One night, one of the girls, a 15-year-old, went into a phone booth and found a 20-dollar-bill. Most kids would just go buy 2 dime bags or leverage it into taking advantage of someone. This girl brought it to me and asked if we could feed some of the kids with a pizza.





I went to my shop and bought one of our 36-inch pizzas half off (that's about double the width of the average x-large, one of our specialties). When I brought it home, she was there waiting for me, and we were able to feed 15 kids. They all ate until they were full and we ended up throwing away a little of it.





The whole night, I kept reminding all who came in how we were able to get it, and that girl sat there beaming all night long. For a night, she was a hero to a lot of people. Knowing that these kids often go several days without ever eating makes the situation very different than just a pizza party.





About 2 months later she came to my apartment alone and we just talked for awhile. She was subtle and secretive and usually never said what was really on her mind, not very trusting. She really only said two things in between some long uncomfortable silences. She said she had just come back from one of the bridges downtown, and then she said she came back because of me.





I didn't have a clue what she was talking about until years later. Really. Not just because she's so secretive but sometimes I can be dense. The place she went to was a popular place for commiting suicide. She remembered what I had told her. There were now 15 people in the world who considered her a hero, a life-saver and a girl with a very big heart and would never forget what she had done for them.





Once you have a status like that, you have a power base that no one can take away. Even when someone tells you you're worthless, you have a voice inside saying "BS. Not so, and I have friends to prove it."
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